She responded with, "Well, a little bit, but mostly I just want to talk to you about whether or not you have ever felt that J was being harmed. This isn't a review of your home or your care."
Those words were very nice to hear, and I am just ready to get this over with. I am still planning on being prepared for her to take a tour of the house etc, but I will let her lead the interview as she sees fit.
Thank you for all your thoughts on my last post! My main concern is how to communicate my desire to stop watching J without them feeling like something might have happened here... Is that crazy? I guess I could just say that I had been feeling like I had too much on my plate. I will definitely be devoting some prayer time to this decision and take things one step at a time.
I will post tomorrow evening or Thurs. morning to let you know how it went. Thank you in advance for all of your prayers!
Good Luck...I will be thinking about you!
ReplyDeleteI will be praying for you! I am confident you will find the right way to tell J's parents you will not be able to continue watching him.
ReplyDeleteWow...I havent read your blog in a bit and things really got serious! I will be praying for you this afternoon!
ReplyDeleteGosh, I hope tomorrow goes smoothly and please know we'll be praying for that whole situation.
ReplyDeleteCan I just suggest that when you tell this family that you are no longer able to watch their son that you don't communicate anything negative about yourself? I'm worried that if you say you've been overwhelmed they might turn that into another strike against you. Do you know what I mean? Like they might think that because you were overwhelmed you weren't watching him properly or maybe even neglecting him. I just don't want you to say anything negative about yourself in stating your reason for stopping. I obviously don't know your relationship with this family, and I'm sure as an outsider it's easier to be more objective, but I would consider telling them that this incident is linked to your decision. Like I said, easier for me since I'm not in your situation. I just hate to see you blame yourself when this is clearly a breach of trust on their part.
Praying for you :)
I think it would be understandable if you needed a break after all this. I mean honestly, what person would want to keep watching J after J's parents called you with news that CPS would be investigating you. They had to have known this could create a rift or stressor between you and them the minute they brought it up, and *especially* if you are innocent (which we know you are). I wouldn't feel comfortable watching J anymore if it were me (and depending on various factors, I might communicate that I after this ordeal, I am not comfortable watching their child anymore).
ReplyDeletePraying for you and can't wait to hear that this is all behind you.
ReplyDeleteThank you, ladies! SC and Sarah, I agree with you. My primary reason for wanting to stop is that when I am watching him, my only free day is every other Friday. I have J on Mon. and Tues., then Wed. we go to play group, Thurs. my daughter has preschool, and then every other Friday, I have J again.
ReplyDeleteWhen he is here, the days go smoothly, and I don't mind having him, but it is challenging for me to have something going on nearly every day of the week and not have the option of leaving the house when he is here.
So I will definitely figure out the most tactful positive way to communicate this without making it a negative note about me. That is a great point, SC!
Wow, you're a busy lady! You know what they say: if you need something done, ask a busy person! That's awesome that you stay so alive. I'm wishing I was there right now. You go girl!
ReplyDeleteJust wanted to let you know that I've been thinking about you and praying for this situation! Hope everything goes well!
ReplyDeleteSo, what do you think the social worker meant by saying that your care and your home are not being reviewed? Maybe I totally read it wrong, but it sounds like they may be (in a round about way) investigating the parents. Perhaps they want to know from you if "J" has ever come to your house bruised or injured in any way.
ReplyDeleteAnyway...just a thought. I'll be keeping you in thought during this time. Blessings to you, Megan! :o)
I think that sounds like they're investigating the parents and not you, too!!!!
ReplyDeleteI'll be praying for you tomorrow!
Just tell her you think it would be best if you didnt continue working for them after all this. Who cares what she thinks? You know you didn't do anything wrong. Hopefully you'll never have to see them again.
ReplyDeleteGood luck tomorrow!
Megan - I will be praying for you! Sorry, I have been quiet in the com boxes, but I have been thinking about you a lot. May you be filled with peace during the visit.
ReplyDeleteuMMMM....Can I beg for you to post tomorrow evening????
ReplyDeletePRAYERS, MEGAN!!!!
I'm so thankful she explained the purpose of her visit and will pray that you are overwhelmed with peace!
Oh my goodness! How did I miss all of this?? Could it be that I have been entirely self-centered lately? How awful that you have to go through this! I am so sorry. PLEASE keep us posted - no pun intended. I'll be praying!!!!
ReplyDeleteOh, wow....Okay, that sounds a little better, and I pray that the meeting and your talk with J's mom goes well.
ReplyDeleteI can't take this. So sad. They are worried about the parents, obviously. But, also, I have heard that little fractures can and do occur in babies and toddlers.
ReplyDeleteSo, I am praying this is just an accident and that the parents over reacted.