I had one of those moments tonight, and while it was thankfully among close friends, I wish I had not said it... it was a knee jerk comment and one that did not reflect my true morals and beliefs.
A friend was relating a story about a woman who literally threw up a hundred times a day for her entire nine months of pregnancy, and this occurred with all three of her children. I knew from previous conversations that this woman and her husband had struggled with sub fertility, and I remembered that this couple had tried hard for a fourth child, but after experiencing more difficulty they decided to stop actively trying.
So when her extreme nausea and vomiting during her pregnancies was discussed tonight, I said, "I know that we are called to be open to life, but with her being that sick, I'm surprised that they tried that hard for a fourth!"
UGH.
It was a monstrosity of a comment, and I wish it hadn't spilled out of my mouth. :(
Of course they would try for a fourth! Children are such a blessing, and going through nine months of miserable vomiting is worth it for the sweet little someone growing inside of you.
I feel even worse because I know so many women on the blogs and in real life who would cut off their own right arm to have the opportunity to throw up for nine months if it meant that they were blessed with a child at the end.
Sigh.
Blessed Mother, please help me to guard my tongue.
Ouch. We all make mistakes like that. So few of us recognize them though! Good for you!
ReplyDeleteUgh!!!! I know the feeling all to well! My mother and I were just talking about this yesterday! :)
ReplyDeleteI said something STUPID at a wedding to the BRIDE over the weekend. I won't even get into it here but I can't believe it came out of my mouth. I prayed so hard she wouldn't remember my stupidness!
But putting "being open to life" aside, it's very difficult and in my own human mind I would think the same thing as well. How can someone do it, but we would do it all day long even though we don't know how we do it. :) Thankfully grace takes over. But I would have probably had said the same thing....
I hate human moments. :) Hate them! ERGH!
We're all human. I say the stupidest stuff sometimes!!! And fwiw, my twin sister has these issues (throwing up non-stop). She loves her babies, but will forever hate pregnancy. And frankly, it freaks me out regarding getting pregnant. Of course we want to get pregnant but I'd be lying if the extreme sickness doesn't cross my mind and instill a little terror in me.
ReplyDeleteOuch! We all make comments we wish we could take back. Sometimes, I feel like a heel for holding my tongue when I know I should speak up and defend life.
ReplyDeleteA few months ago I was having lunch with some "friends". (They are more like acquaintances because we were assigned to a parenting group together by the hospital at which we delivered.) One of them is a teacher and was discussing how uninvolved the parents are at her school. Another one piped up to say, if you don't want to raise them and be involved in every aspect of their lives you shouldn't be having children and that these "bad" parents should be forcibly sterilized so they don't inflict the world with more of their worthless children.
I was horrified at their comments. So horrified that I couldn't even find the words to combat that type of thinking. I said nothing, but excused myself from the table to leave.
You recognize the verbal slip-up and are taking action to correct it! Good for you! I'll be praying that all of our brain-mouth filters work better when we need them!
We all say stuff that we wish we could take back. God forgives. We are all called to forgive like He forgives.
ReplyDeleteWhat did you say, Sew? Hahaha
ReplyDeleteOh I know and hate that feeling. Why is the tongue so hard to control???
ReplyDeleteI really need to finish my series. I'm struggling to find the motivation now that Lent is over!